"When kids are punished severely when their parents are in a bad mood, but get away with mayhem when parents are in a good mood, we create a model for kids out of control...When your standards are enforced according to how you ou practice by saying, I'm not ready to share," or "I'm not finished with my turn yet," He can say the words himself, or he can listen while you say them. Either way, stress that next time you expect him to use those words instead of hitting."
I love the idea of practicing with your child the expected behavior.
"...practice with him what you want him to do. You have to wait until he's calm, but even if its the next day, don't be afraid to role play with your child.Pretend you're the other child, and let your child practice by saying, "I'm not ready to share or I'm not finished with my turn yet...He can say the words himself, or he can listen while you say them....Either way, stress that next time you expect him to use those words instead of hitting."
"When your consequences are laid out ahead of time, your child will be aware of them and know that he is making a choice....They are not thrown out in the heat of the moment. If you don't have a consequence for a particular situation, you can stop your child, deal with the situation, and still come back later to say, 'What happened today is not acceptable. Next time this will be the consequence of that behavior."
These quotes are from the book I referenced in my previous post.
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